Blog Post – July 2018: Be Personal; Don’t Take it Personally

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Be Personal; Don't Take it Personally
Owning my own business and working for myself means accepting most things don’t go my way. In truth, living a fulfilling life means accepting most things don’t go my way.
Most often, things not going my way happens in the relational context; translation: interacting with people and not-as-planned outcomes go together like trying and failing – the many-time precursor for trying and succeeding. 
In the early days of deciding to work for myself, I set the intention to be personal and not take things personally. To me, being personal is  striving to respect and value every person I encounter. My intention is to give respect freely. I do not insist that my giving of respect be earned. Striving to value every person I encounter is about recognizing the potential in people, judgement free. Not taking things personally means another person’s words and actions are not about me. Period.
Here’s what I continue to notice as an unintended consequence: I’m happier when I am living this intention. I am more grateful for the opportunities and work that comes my way when I am living this intention.  
Still, this intention is a work in progress. It’s under construction for the duration of my life.
What intention is your work-in-progress? 
Sarah Thomas, ACC 
ICF Treasurer and Governance/Performance Coach